boundaries...

hey cherubs,

i hope this blog finds you well. I just wanted to do a little blog to learn about boundaries and why they are important.

boundary (noun): the line that marks the limits of an area.

personal boundaries are limits one puts on oneself in order to maintain proper health and avoid overstimulation.

everyone's boundaries can look different. yours will not be the same as the next person's. don't base your boundaries on others'. you are allowed to make your own personal boundaries without asking permission from someone else.

boundaries can encompass many aspects...here are a few:

• physical boundaries

• emotional boundaries

• sexual boundaries

• intellectual boundaries

• financial boundaries

physical boundaries include aspects associated with one's body, privacy, and personal space.

examples of physical boundaries can include: defining the need or avoidance of touch, the need for attention and/or space, and defining when you need to eat/sleep.

emotional boundaries include your feelings and mental health.

examples of emotional boundaries can include: when and what to share/what not to share with someone, validating your feelings, as well as others', processing your ability to take in emotional information.

sexual boundaries include consent, respect, agreement, and understanding.

examples of sexual boundaries can include: asking for consent, discussing contraceptives, and saying no when you don't want to do something or it hurts.

intellectual boundaries include your thoughts and ideas.

examples of intellectual boundaries can include: respect for others' ideas, whether it's a good time to talk about something, and willingness to understand others.

financial boundaries include the limits you set for your own money.

examples of financial boundaries can include: when/where to spend your money, budgeting, and who has access to your money.

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boundaries are something that everyone should have. you don't have to have a set list of "these are my boundaries," it doesn't have to be that perfect. but you should at least have an idea of do's and don't's of your life and stick to them...

part of my boundaries lately are mostly emotional. with school and work, the blog is something that can easily put a lot more work on my plate (even though i love working on it). but learning to take a step back and take your time is what you need in order to keep yourself in check.

if someone is questioning your boundaries, tell them that you are doing/ not doing these things in order to keep yourself healthy and not to overstimulate yourself (which is a real thing!!).

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i hope you guys liked this blog, quick and easy.

i will see you guys in the next one, whenever that may be...

xx Loryn