the gift of self-love
- lxrynwxtring
- Dec 23, 2022
- 2 min read
12/23/22
good morning cherubs!
the gifting season is among us...
most of us are busy trying to decide what to buy for others that we often forget about ourselves. we are so caught up in making sure others are happy and have the perfect gift, that we put ourselves on the back burner.
maybe your love language is gift giving. so much of your time is put into preparing and prepping gifts: between shopping, wrapping, and giving, that we forget to give ourselves the gift of self-care and rest.
in order to give yourself the time and attention you deserve, it starts off with learning to love yourself and showing yourself self-love.
what is self-love?
self-love is "a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth."
self-love is unique to the individual person. showing appreciation for yourself isn't going to be the same as the next person's. but that's why it's called self love. it's supposed to be unique.
in general self-love can look like:
Talking to and about yourself with love
Prioritizing yourself
Giving yourself a break from self-judgement
Trusting yourself
Being true to yourself
Being nice to yourself
Setting healthy boundaries
Forgiving yourself when you aren’t being true or nice to yourself
but self-love can also mean self-care. self-care starts with the basics:
Listen to our bodies
Take breaks from work and move/stretch.
Put the phone down and connect to yourself or others, or do something creative.
Eating healthily, but sometimes indulge in your favorite foods
but why is self-love so important? what benefits does it have?
self-love allows you to fill the gaps in that external of love may lack
self-love motivates you to make healthier choices
self-love helps you to create the proper boundaries in relationships
benefits of self-love:
removes the fear of rejection
less stress and anxiety
increase self-esteem
more likely to enjoy the real happiness in life
higher level of satisfaction
avoid burnout
helps remove the mental blockage of communicating with others
boosts self-confidence
more aware of the "low-battery warnings"
stronger motivation
build resilience
allows a place for self-growth
be more assertive
help achieve goals
ways to practice self-love during the holidays or any time of year:
Practice affirmations. Learn to talk positively to yourself.
Look at the mirror and learn to love your body.
Say no to the flavors you don’t want to do.
Do what you need to do before you help someone else.
Do one thing at a time and stop rushing through tasks.
Stop comparing yourself to others.
Unfollow social accounts that set unrealistic expectations.
Practice mindfulness with meditation or breathing exercises.
Set healthy boundaries in relationships and at work.
Identify toxic relationships or fake friendships, and leave them for good.
Do a brain dump and unload your burdens on paper.
Do an introspection to know more about yourself.
Ask for help when you need to.
Stop requiring yourself to meet the social standards of beauty and success.
Find a passion or pursue a hobby.
Develop a good morning routine to start the day off strong.
Embrace a clean, healthy, and doable diet and make it a lifestyle.
Exercise regularly to feel good, not just to look good.
Evaluate your finance, figure out your current net worth and make a savings plan accordingly.
Declutter your living space and workspace.
Spend some time on self-care every day.
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I hope you guys take this blog post into consideration when you're wanting to work on yourself.
try not to let the holidays make you bitter...
you deserve to be here(:
xx Loryn
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